Mindstate of the Young, Black, & Gifted

I think my mom wonders that everyday.  It’s obvious that the love isn’t there so I sit here wondering why they’re still together?? Before they said their “I do’s” did the thought that the person they’re getting married to is actually good for them? It’s a sad reality but I feel like so many people end up with a person they shouldn’t have married.  Whether the person changed after they got married or they weren’t supposed to get married from the start, people are just getting married for the wrong reasons.  Sometimes money is the motive or some dudes might get too caught up in the physical and fail to realize that the love really isn’t there.  And it sucks when a good woman ends up with a complete dickhead.  When leaving seems like it’s not an option and kids are the only thread holding the relationship together, marriage seems more like a self-imposed prison and that just defeats the purpose.  Maybe it’s just me but aside from those fairy tale marriages on tv, I’ve yet to see what a healthy marriage looks like.  On the bright side, at least I know what I don’t want my marriage to look like.